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focus on the GOOD

focus on the GOOD

Focusing on the good can be difficult at times. Many of us have had our fair share of pessimistic moments. In fact, according to an article about Negativity Bias, we are hard wired to notice and dwell on negative experiences because “negative events have a greater impact on our brains than positive ones.”  However, it’s so important to teach our children to be resilient and not crumble when things aren’t going exactly as planned. A powerful way to help them and ourselves through the difficult times is to focus on the good.

negativity and stress are related

As stated in an article by Roots of Action, neuroscientists Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Prof. Mark Robert Waldman, authors of the book Words Can Change Your Brain, explains just how negativity and stress are related. Speaking negative thoughts about anything (health, financials, doubt, worry, disapproval, fear, etc.) releases stress chemicals in not just your brain, but those within earshot of you as well. Constantly living in an uphill battle of negativity and stress can cause the mind to continuously dip to a pessimistic or stressed state. Think of how that could affect those within earshot of the negative speaker, such as the spouse, children, friends, and loved ones. Think of how habitually speaking and thinking negatively can affect someone long-term.

shift the mind to focus on the good

Well that means we just need to think positive thoughts, right? It’s not always that easy with life and obstacles being thrown our way constantly. However, there are some tricks that can help shift the mind to a place of optimism versus pessimism. One very helpful trick to shift the mind is practicing gratitude. Focusing on the good goes hand-in-hand with gratitude (see GRATITUDE is the key blog post). If you focus on things that you are grateful for, you’re shifting your thoughts to everything that is good in your life. This shift in the mind from pessimism to optimism creates a powerful ripple effect to yourself and those around you.

be more mindful

Like I mentioned in my past blog post, Throw Love Around Like Confetti, a study showed that children are greatly influenced by their parents and/or the adults they’re around and often mimic the adult’s behavior. If they grow up seeing adults practicing more optimism versus pessimism, then they may be more likely to do the same as an adult. Create good and positive habits with your children that help to shift their (and your) attention to the good things in life.

1. create a fun game to help focus on the good

Sharing thoughts of gratitude should not just be reserved for one day out of the year. Anytime you see a fire truck, you and your child can each take a turn saying something you’re truly grateful for. This doesn’t have to be a fire truck, you and your child can choose your own unique trigger. Thinking thoughts of gratitude helps to shift the mind to focus on the good.

2. words are powerful and affirming

Children may want to mimic negative words and behaviors which may instill in them to have negative self-talk or voice negativity daily as they grow older, just like mom, dad or another adult figure. Speaking negatively can leave a lasting mark and raise stress levels not only to the one speaking negatively but to those within earshot as well. Trying to stay on the side of optimism and thinking before you speak can make it a bit easier for everyone to focus on the good overall.

books to encourage focusing on the good

Help your children develop a positive outlook by focusing on the good with these uplifting stories. Through characters who learn to appreciate the small joys, practice gratitude, and find beauty in everyday moments, these books inspire young readers to focus on the good, fostering optimism and resilience.

coloring fun

Please enjoy this free Tot Tails coloring page to help share this message with your child.

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We would love to hear your experiences and advice on empowering little ones to seek out the positives, no matter the circumstances.. Are there any books or resources you feel can help? Thanks so much for reading and feel free to comment below!


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